The ‘volatile’ social media of 2016, allows victims to be torn apart by people, who oftimes are in worse off situations themselves. I watched with utter amazement, as a 44 year old spinster, tore Jhene to shreds over her cheating allegations/divorce, calling her all sorts of unprintable names. Because of this social media, that gives every Tom, Dick and Harry a microphone, a 44 year old woman, who has never been married and has no children can condemn another woman’s choice?
The first question on my mind was “Madam, how come you are not married at 44?” but fear no let me, as it was obvious that the poor mare needed an outlet to vent her frustration.
When Jhene started trending, I read tweets with awe, people who had little or no access to the real information, out of the blues became ‘professors of Jhene’, earning their PHDs and masters degrees on the subject, after spending all of 5 minutes digesting the story on TMZ. Some others who weren’t afforded the education TMZ gave, as their data plans were limited, relied solely on Facebook and Twitter, for their ONDs and HNDs on the subject.
I respect Jhene for deciding to end a ‘fungating’ relationship. There are a few reasons why a woman would cheat, the worst being that her heart is no longer in the relationship. Should she have stayed and continued cheating on Mr Dot, or moved on? Some suggested that she should have stayed and fixed her marriage, despite allegations of violence..
Hmmm like that gentleman in ibadan who went home to try to fix his marriage after he was stabbed once? The poor guy is in the grave yard, with the story more or less buried with him. Same thing with that pretty lagos banker, who died with her children right there in the house, trying to fix her marriage. This year alone I have come across 4 or 5 of such stories, and wonder when, if at all, people are going to learn.
In the western world, they are not burdened with the responsibility we have, of pretending all is well on the home front, while we slide in and out of DMs and hotel rooms, yet ‘forming’ self righteous.
Also, they do not enjoy the luxury of having some confused men of God, who are more worried about a couple going for deliverance if they engage in daily sex, or whether a woman knows how to cook or not, instead of facing what Jesus called them to do, to contend with.
'I've done a lot of marriage counselling.'
'What happens in a marriage once you do counselling, the truth comes out, 'you look at each other and you can't imagine you could ever possibly love each other again now the truth is out.'Adding that the tough honesty 'creates a dark moment' between them.
'But for me it's the dark before the dawn. When the truth comes out and people have to say who they are and what they think, you get to know who they are,' he added.
'I can't believe it. I knew I was Team GB's youngest athlete but this is crazy and I'm still in shock at the minute. 'It was a bit nerve-wracking watching the other athletes and knowing you are so close to a medal but I would have been happy with wherever I was place.' 'I went out there and did my best and enjoyed it so whatever the result, I would have been happy. I really am speechless.
'I put no pressure on myself and neither did my coaches. They just told me I had nothing to lose and to go out and enjoy it. I had made the floor final at the Olympics and deserved to be in it so I enjoyed it. 'As soon as I finished my routine, I knew I couldn't do any better. 'It has been an incredible week for British gymnastics. Hopefully there is a lot more to come from me and you will see me back out here in 2020.'